Co-Sleeping Heart Break

Co-Sleeping Heart Break

I was reading an article the other day on mom.me called, “I Can’t Stop Co-Sleeping With My Kid”. Honestly when I read the title I got chills remembering what I had just gone through with my son Kingston a couple of months ago. You see I had seen my sister co sleep with her son for years, and even before I had King, I would always tell myself that wouldn’t be me! I was determined and even told my sister, “it is possible not to co sleep, I will show you”. She of course said wait till he is in your arms, and tell me you are going to let him go. Well of course Kingston was born and would cry at the site of the bassinet. He would take naps but never longer than two hours in it. I picture my sister’s smerk, as I co slept with my son for a couple of months. Of course once we moved to our new apartment I knew that Tyson was not going to allow it. We had a long conversation and agreed it was crib time. AHH little did I know the serious heart ache a mother feels hearing her child cry when you put him in that crib and turn off the lights. I will be honest we had a huge fight the first time. He would tell me not to go get him but the cries hurt my soul. I have never felt pain like the pain of hearing my son cry for me for 10 minutes straight till I caved. I don’t know how woman do it, I thought. So the mom brain kicked in as a began non stop planning a solution to this problem.
It began with putting him to sleep in my arms because I thought then I could just move him to the crib. WRONG! The minute he felt me lower him down the screams would come. My next plan was to shut the lights and stay with him in room till he fell asleep. Well I would end up falling asleep on my knees with my hand in the crib faster than him. His screams would wake me up again. I think I lost like 10 pounds with sleepless nights, and stressing over a solution. Well ladies I struck gold with my third plan. I took down the front side of the crib. This way he wouldn’t feel the lowering down and wake up. I bought a side rail at Walmart. I will include the picture. I even figured out he loved sleeping on my pillow in my bed. Actually that was the cause of the “AH HA” moment, when I realized if I can make his bed like my bed this could work. Well I added a pillow seriously flat like his sheet, so I wouldn’t worry. Here comes my plan.
I would literally drop the side down and climb into the crib with him. Give him his bottle (that will be my next war, getting him off the bottle) and wait till he fell asleep. I would then take my arm out and quietly tip toe my way out. I would leave his bottle in the crib for his comfort if he wakes up.
IT WORKED!  I avoided the crying and everything! Took weeks to get him to sleep longer and longer. Now it takes like 5 minutes and hes out! There I go tip toeing out of his room EVERY NIGHT. But it saves me the heart break of hearing him cry.
What have you ladies tried? I hope I am not the only one with crazy ideas. I seriously hope this helps the mother who is struggling with Co- Sleeping. And to mother that has successfully done it the other way, POWER TO YOU! You deserve a medal! lol

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